By Hannah Hickok
Ah, awards season—aka the time to watch as many movies as you can, all of which like to glorify the idea of the perfect, no-mess love story. That’s all fine and good, but we like to live in reality (where it’s cool to Netflix and chill in sweats you’ve worn all week). Now, we’re not telling you to not watch those films that make you swoon at all hours of the day. The ones below are classics for a reason (and the new ones will remind you why Leo is nominated for something again). But remember those relationships are all pretend—and your imperfect, bumpy, warts-and-all marriage totally one-ups each and every one of ’em. Here’s why.
1. Chivalry is overated
The fantasy: Prince Charming (*cough* Richard Gere *cough*) sweeps Cinderella off her feet.
Reality: Your husband, God love him, barely remembers flowers on V-Day and your anniversary, but he does a million other things that are—we swear—so much better. You don’t need grand gestures to have a happy relationship, says matchmaker and relationship guru Bela Gandhi, founder of the Smart Dating Academy, and should instead focus on seeing “that his character is good, and that he treats you with kindness, interest, and respect,” she says. Take note of the things he regularly does and give him chivalry credit for them, like when he always takes the wheel so you can sleep during long car rides, or gives you the last sushi roll. And if you want more, remember that chivalry can be taught, says Gandhi. She suggests giving him specific feedback, like how much you loved it the last time he planned that wine-tasting date. Positive reinforcement does wonders to make him even more of a prince—and you may get a shiny necklace in return. 😉
2. You’re building love that will last a lifetime.
3. The tough stuff makes your bond unbreakable
4. Strong, empowered women are sexy – and accepted.
5. Fighting strengthens your connection.
6. You really can enjoy life drama-free.
7. Real intimacy is better than those early sparks.
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