“Things can get better, relationships can be repaired, hope can be restored ……”
– Tara Fields
Praise for THE LOVE FIX
“This book is filled with hope, positivity, and all the tools you need to help your relationship to thrive.” —John Gray, PhD and author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
“An essential read for anyone in a relationship. No matter what the state of your relationship you will find tips and strategies in The Love Fix to enhance it, and maximize your own happiness in the process.” —Louann Brizendine, MD and author of The Female Brain and The Male Brain
“Tara Fields has three decades under her belt as a couple’s therapist but unlike most of her brethren, also has had a vast experience in the media. So she knows how to communicate. And you are the beneficiary. That’s only one reason why this is the best relationship book I have ever read. It is wise and modern but most importantly, refreshingly objective, down to earth, direct, and practical. This is a must-read.” —Dr. Dean Edell
“Tara Fields has combined the best of cutting edge thinking in the fields of holistic psychology, mindfulness, and couple’s therapy to arm readers with the skills that will bring forth change and real transformation. A useful guide for both clinicians as well as couples and individuals who strive for healing change.” —Ronald Alexander, PhD, MFT
About the Book
Renowned relationship therapist Dr. Tara Fields reveals the five most common conflict patterns couples fall into and the steps they can take to find their way back to a happy, satisfying relationship in her new book from HarperCollins, The Love Fix: Repair and Restore Your Relationship Right Now, published in September 2015.
All couples argue, but how do some couples get here, to this point that seems like no return?
Licensed marriage and family therapist Dr. Tara Fields has spent over twenty-eight years working with couples. What she learned was that there are five common conflict patterns couples fall into: The Parent-Child Trap; The Blame-Shame Spiral; Come Close, Go Away; Testing, Testing, 1, 2, 3; Growing Apart. She also discovered three steps to getting past having the same fight over and over again and moving on to building a relationship where you each feel heard, understood, respected, and loved. In The Love Fix, Fields shares her tested and proven tools and guidance to help build stronger relationships, including:
Insight from real couples who have repaired their relationships
Self-assessment quizzes to get to the root of the problem
Practical 3-Minute Fixes you can start using immediately
HEARTwork exercises where you’ll dig deeper to reconnect.
The Love Fix will also help couples explore the fears and unrealistic expectations that turn fights into never-ending cycles and will teach you how to create the opportunity to get in touch with both of your needs. It’s never too late to reignite your passion and restore the love between you and your partner. Figure out what you’re really fighting about and start enjoying a happier, stronger relationship today!
Missing my Dad this Father's Day. My dad, Jerome Fields, advertising icon, World War II veteran, and beloved husband and father passed away in his home in Santa Monica, California October 8th, 2015. My mother, my husband and I were by his side. He was was 97.
In 1947, with nothing in his pocket but $250 and a lot of moxie (one of his favorite expressions), Jerry created Jobs Unlimited, which later became Jerry Fields & Associates. In time, through hard work, inimitable style, and with the help of his wife Eleanor, this would become one of the most influential head-hunting firms on Madison Avenue and make Jerry himself on of the original “Mad Men” of advertising. (See the article below, from 1986, entitled “Magnetic Fields.” Jerry was widely known for the originality and creativity he brought to every aspect of his life, from the art he collected to the cars he drove to the way he dressed to the Dalmations he rescued—first Chipsey, and then Mr. Wonderful. But those who knew him best will remember him most as a mensch, a man of integrity and a big heart, qualities not always associated with the cutthroat industry he spent his life in.
This is an anecdote shared with me by Christina, devoted housekeeper and companion to my parents, that illustrates the kind of man my dad was. Each morning Christina would have this conversation with Jerry:
Christina: How are you, Mr. Jerry? Jerry: How are you, Christina? Christina: I am good, Mr. Jerry. Jerry: And how is Mrs. Fields? Christina: Mrs. Fields is good. Jerry: Then I am good.
A few days before my father died, my husband Eric sat with him for a four-hour stretch. Eric talked, but by that point, Dad was no longer strong enough to speak. Suddenly, he gathered his energy, opened his mouth and uttered the classic last words, “And how are you, Eric?”
Jerome, Jerry, Jerr, Dad, Daddy-O, Dear Old Dad will be long remembered and much missed by all who knew and loved him. ... See MoreSee Less
Every time life brings you to a crossroads, from the tiniest to the most immense, go toward love, not away from fear. Think of every choice in terms of "What would thrill and delight me?" rather than "What will keep my fear—or the events, people, and things I fear—at bay?" - Martha Beck ... See MoreSee Less
It can be as simple or challenging as asking someone you would like to befriend out for tea, setting boundaries with someone who intimates you or ending the relationship all together, taking a trip on your own or asking a question in a group setting. You cant loose since they are all an opportunity to grow! ... See MoreSee Less