Working from Home: Dream Job, or Welcome to Hell?

If you have a daily commute kind of job, you may fantasize about working from home, thinking, “Wow. That’s the life.” But ask any professional who does it, and you’ll get an earful. Now that the Coronavirus is forcing all sorts of people who generally drive to an office to shift their workspace, here’s how to navigate what Craig Faustus Buck, a novelist, calls “the potpourri of procrastination opportunities provided by the lack of supervision.”

Reclaim Valentine’s Day!

Instead of swiping right and looking for someone new this Valentine’s Day, put down the phone and re-new the relationship that is right in front of you.

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Toxic Shame

Healthy Shame vs. Toxic Shame

Are you carrying the burden of shame that doesn’t belong to you?Were you Sexually abused as a child? Were those who were suppose to protect you choose to turn a blind eye, choosing to not see what they see or know what they know– we take on their shame.As they grow up, children who are […]
When Then Game, Tara Fields, Ph.D., LMFT

How to Stop Playing the “WHEN, THEN” Game

Embrace the Present and Enjoy (the) “Now”Feeling anxious and powerless about the future since the November 8 election? Join the club.There has never been a better time to role up our sleeves and empower ourselves by working on what we do have control of and what is truly important…our relationships.Working on a relationship is . […]
relationship tug of war, Tara Fields, Ph.D., LMFT

Feeling Frayed from a Tug Of War with your Partner? End it today!

November 8, 2016Feeling anxious and powerless? You are not alone. Anxiety and feelings of powerlessness are at an all time high. To assuage those feelings it helps to take charge of the things you can control. If you are in a power struggle with your partner you have the power to end it today.Here’s how….   Imagine a tug […]
Resolving conflict in relationships by Dr. Tara Fields, LMFT, Ph.D.

Tangled Up and Blue?

How To Ease A Conflict Loop In Your RelationshipConflict and Protections in ChildhoodOne thing we learn in childhood is how to create ways to feel safe and protect ourselves. As children, we are living in the land of giants and even if we have loving parents, there is still the occasion where a parent is towering over […]
Rebuilding Trust Tara Fields, Ph.D., LMFT Marin County, California

Affair of the Heart vs. Sexual Affair: Part 2 Rebuilding the Trust

No Trust – No Relationship.Ripping down trust may take only a few minutes, but it takes a long time to rebuild it. We talked about transparency in Part 1 of this two part series, but let’s go a bit deeper into what it really means. Exhibiting total transparency in an effort to rebuild trust in […]
affair of the heart

Affair of the Heart vs Sexual Affair: Part 1 Which is More Devastating?

Part 1 of a Two Part Series on Rebuilding The Relationship After an Affair of the Heart or Sexual AffairThe revelation of an affair of the heart (where a partner fell in love and/or had a deep emotional involvement) or a sexual affair is devastating but it doesn’t have to end a committed relationship. In […]

5 Tips for Spotting Red Flags During the First Few Dates

In The Love Fix, I talk a lot about expectations. Timing is everything. Before you even start dating, think about who you want as your life partner. Sit with yourself. What are your deal-breakers? Then, how do you envision a relationship? Are you looking out for the red flags?A psychiatrist wrote a book for therapists […]
Article by Dr. Tara Fields Two Faces of Anger

The Two Faces of Anger: How to Turn Anger into Love

Back in the eighties, the personal growth movement and certain schools of therapy said that if you’re feeling angry, you should share it with the other person, just dump it on him or her, leaving the other person a mere puddle on the ground. This was supposed to help you release your anger. Maybe it even […]