Tara Fields was recently quoted in Redbook magazine. Read the original article here. 

Ever since announcing their divorce, and subsequently depressing all of America, ​ Jen and Ben have been seen about town still wearing their wedding rings, which has frankly made it hard for us to grieve, and a little bit confused.

Apparently they’re doing it to present a united front for the sake of their three kids, Violet, 9, Seraphina, 6, and Samuel, 3, who they have said they’re “committed to co-parenting.”

Marriage and family therapist, and author of The Love Fix: Repair and Restore Your Relationship Right Now,Dr. Tara Fields told us that Ben and Jen are doing it to send a message to the media that they’re still a team. 

“They’re saying, no matter what you’re reading, we’re still a team, we’re still parents.” They’re also doing it as a reminder to their children that while their relationship with each other may have changed, the way they feel about their family has not, and never will.

Dr. Fields adds, “During a divorce, there are so many phases of grieving, and in the early stages, a couple can feel some internal ambivalence that can manifest externally. Together, a couple can say ‘let’s both decide as a team to put our rings back on’ which is a fantastic choice, especially for famous people who are vulnerable and want to protect their kids.”

 “Wearing their rings is a wonderful way to say that no matter what is happening, we can still control this one element and that’s the statement they’re making to the outside world and their children.”

A source close to the couple agrees with Dr. Fields. The “insider” conferred to People, that the rings do act as a symbol for their children. “They just want their kids to be okay.”

And that’s something we can certainly stand by. 

The challenge: dress slacks for a petite woman

• The budget: $200 or less
• The adviser: Tara Fields Ph.D., (pictured) TV and radio therapist
• Among the possibilities: Ralph Lauren Slim chocolate-brown wool/Lycra slacks with costs (for petites), $168, at Macy’s
• The solution: Banana Republic slim black wool/Lycra pinstriped slacks, $148, at Banana Republic, Mill Valley
• The reasoning: “The regular sized 2 fit just like a petite 4, which I’m used to buying, but with one very important exception — they were long enough! I need pants that look professional and are comfortable enough to sit in all day when I see patients and do a three-hour radio show. And the pinstripes are classic.”
• The last word: “As any petite woman can tell you, just because we are vertically challenged doesn’t necessarily mean we all have short legs. When it comes to finding slacks that fit, unfortunately, most are so short they’d only be good for waiting through the El Niño floods.

Originally posted: 06/22/2012 2:54 pm Updated: 06/27/2012 3:48 pm in The Huffington Post

The jury in the child molestation trial of former assistant Penn State football coach Jerry
Sandusky has days of testimony to consider, but one thing members likely won’t spend much
time deliberating is the defense’s contention that he suffers from a personality disorder,
according a nationally known expert.

“These kinds of [alleged] acts cannot be written off or defended by a mere personality
disorder,” Tara Fields, Ph.D., M.F.T., told The Huffington Post. Fields, a licensed marriage and
family therapist who has appeared as an expert on “Good Morning America,” “Dr. Phil,” and
A&E’s “Hoarders,” has not treated Sandusky, but is familiar with the allegations against him.

. . . .

According to the A.D.A.M. Medical Encyclopedia, histrionic personality disorder is a “condition
in which people act in a very emotional and dramatic way that draws attention to themselves.”
Symptoms include acting or looking overly seductive, being easily influenced by others, being
overly dramatic and needing to be the center of attention.

The defense’s purpose in presenting the diagnosis was not to provide an excuse for Sandusky’s
alleged actions, but to show that certain actions by Sandusky — letters to accusers, gifts, etc. —
were not intended to “groom” victims, but to satisfy the needs of his psyche.

Fields said she does not buy the diagnosis and does not expect the jury to either.

“What is so interesting is narcissism and histrionic personality disorder are very, very similar,
and if someone could use histrionic personality disorder or narcissist personality disorder as a
defense, it would shut down all reality shows as we know it,” Fields said. “Because if they put
out a casting call they’re basically going to list all the qualities of someone who is histrionic,
dramatic, needs to be the center of attention [and] acts out sexually. . . .

According to Fields, the disorder cannot explain away Sandusky’s alleged actions and should not
be considered an excuse in regards to child molestation.

“It’s absurd to use that as a justification for someone allegedly raping and destroying a child’s life
and all those that are connected to them — to have raped them physically, psychologically and
to create a life path where the consequences of having been a victim of sexual abuse can go on a
lifetime,” Fields said.

For the full article go to The Huffington Post